Friday, March 27, 2009
I have to get real here
I made up my mind that we are going to be able to keep baby girl. This is dangerous. It isn't for sure. I am taking info and making logical sense out of it in order for it to go our way. So we get what we want. I mean, logically if you are losing one child (involuntarily), then you would lose your others. Logically. What exactly are we dealing with here? I don't want to be disrespectful, but, COME ON! They (meaning who exactly? the Judges, the social system) actually make deals with children's lives. I'll take this one and you can keep that one. I know you didn't treat this one very well, but try to take care of the one you want to keep. Yes I am being very sarcastic here. But what does anyone expect? I know it could go the other way just as easy. Maybe I'm not really for reunification. I thought I could be sympathetic and encouraging. The thing is, I really am for reunification. If the parent/parents are willing to do the work. Not when they bargain this child for that one. If Little Guy's mom gets it together (it will not be easy) then I know that she worked hard for herself and her baby. If a parent gets their child back by default, then that is a problem. I realize that we are going to have to put up with this kind of stuff, we are dealing with government at it's finest. Knowing it is not the same as living it. It's frustrating and heartbreaking.
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It is so tough. Praying for your situation!
Isn't it crazy? I don't know exactly how your state works, but here in our state, if a parents rights are officially "terminated" then each child after that is considered "fast track" and the mom gets a lot less time to try to get them back. (not entirely impossible still, just not as easy) Well what happened with our sweet twins, and also I guess happens way more often then it should, is that when a mom knows her rights are going to be terminated, she "relingquishes" them at the last minute so that she will have a chance to get other kids back in the future! I agree that it is ridiculuous. Our babies BM has lost 3 other kids, but because she relingquished, she can try to get the twins, even after she was in PRISON for CHILD ENDANGERMENT!!!! It is crazy.
our state throws the "minimally adequate" standards out there. I think we are very liberal in giving kids back here, we also have the highest meth rate in the entire US right here in our little area. I particularly like how if it's different dads, they are diff "cases" and don't relate/apply to each other!!
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