Seriously, I'm glad there are no visits

I can't believe I feel this way. I have always felt that supporting the bio mom is important and I like to help mom's become better moms. But every case is different, unique. Fostering is not a little box you can stuff all the cases into. That is one reason our system is so flawed. We are dealing with individuals, everyone uniquely and wonderfully made according to the Bible. While I will leave alone how wonderfully made the parents are in our boys cases, I will say it does apply to these children. They are going on with their lives, dealing with their baggage, and seriously trying to be happy. So no visits with a parent who is not interested in parenting is good. It would be seriously damaging to our boys to constantly be rejected by their mom. Now if she shows up and wants to make an effort, I have no choice but to be supportive--for the boys (I will not be happy about it though). For now, I am their mom and I love them.

On our way to Adoption!!!

So this month the state should have permanent custody. Then we will be moving forward with adoption of Lovebug. We are so over the moon I can't even explain it. The crazy part is how bittersweet it is. Adoption is so wonderful, but there is a loss that comes with it. Our Lovebug is losing her mom, she has lost her siblings. We feel we have won the lottery and she is an adored baby, but one day she will have to deal with her loss. I am glad she has no idea what is going on, all she knows is our family. We love her, she is ours. Soon, it will be official.

Update on boys...looks like mom is MIA. Not kidding. She has walked away from 2 children after contributing to physical abuse, post traumatic stress disorder, attachment disorder, hungry, neglected, unsupervised babies. All is not lost. They are safe, loved, and getting the attention they have so craved from their parents. We will see where this goes. No visits for now, and that is a relief really. I cannot believe this though. Were we meant to adopt again?? This really is not in my plan. I mean 2 more boys?? I am praying hard about this, but I am really confused. I know there are so many parents waiting for adoption, what if they are meant to be with them? Do we just rehab these children and send them on their way to their adoptive home? I just don't know. I am way ahead of myself, this situation could turn around in a split second, that is what happened with Little Guy. I just can't help myself, thinking into the future of 'what if''s.