Friday, August 28, 2009

Don't know what to think

So court is Monday and Tuesday. TPR court. 2 children. One has been in foster care for over 2 years. We have no idea what way this will go but what we think will happen is, mom will get more time. She secured a 1 bd apt one week ago. That is a step in the right direction for her. I have not been able to talk to her for 3 weeks now. Our new visit location has us coming in one door, and her in another. They don't encourage contact. It frustrates me, but it seems she is doing okay. I saw her in the waiting room and her hair was done, she looked so pretty. The problem, I really think she hurts herself when it comes to court. She will say things that hurts her case, and she tell lies (she doesn't want to get into trouble for not doing something-so she says she did it). If she is quiet during court, and does what her attorney tells her--she has a good chance of getting her kids back. Even if she isn't 'perfect' I see her getting more time. Since she does have an apt and a job. Now her keeping the apt is what I am worried about. She has had 3 places to live in the last 5 months, so stability is a major issue. I would say it's almost over, but I have a feeling it has just begun--the drama that is.

Lovebug is doing great, she has attached herself to my hip and prefers that spot to any other. We love her, we will hate to lose her. The longer we have her the worse it will be. Doesn't anyone see that? I'm not worried about me, but her. The grief she will go through if they drag this out. We are already taking steps to prepare our kids, but there is no easy way for them. They are still missing Little Guy. We let our kids have a say if we take another foster baby. They all said they wanted to take another. So once again, we are living open--to what God gives us.

2 comments:

Barry and Amy said...

Praying for discernment for the judge on Mon and Tues.

cloudmaster said...

Hopefully whatever happens it will work out for all. KI just hope the judge listens carefully, weighs the evidence, and then makes a rational decision. I know that doesn't always happen.