Seriously, I'm glad there are no visits

I can't believe I feel this way. I have always felt that supporting the bio mom is important and I like to help mom's become better moms. But every case is different, unique. Fostering is not a little box you can stuff all the cases into. That is one reason our system is so flawed. We are dealing with individuals, everyone uniquely and wonderfully made according to the Bible. While I will leave alone how wonderfully made the parents are in our boys cases, I will say it does apply to these children. They are going on with their lives, dealing with their baggage, and seriously trying to be happy. So no visits with a parent who is not interested in parenting is good. It would be seriously damaging to our boys to constantly be rejected by their mom. Now if she shows up and wants to make an effort, I have no choice but to be supportive--for the boys (I will not be happy about it though). For now, I am their mom and I love them.