So this month the state should have permanent custody. Then we will be moving forward with adoption of Lovebug. We are so over the moon I can't even explain it. The crazy part is how bittersweet it is. Adoption is so wonderful, but there is a loss that comes with it. Our Lovebug is losing her mom, she has lost her siblings. We feel we have won the lottery and she is an adored baby, but one day she will have to deal with her loss. I am glad she has no idea what is going on, all she knows is our family. We love her, she is ours. Soon, it will be official.
Update on boys...looks like mom is MIA. Not kidding. She has walked away from 2 children after contributing to physical abuse, post traumatic stress disorder, attachment disorder, hungry, neglected, unsupervised babies. All is not lost. They are safe, loved, and getting the attention they have so craved from their parents. We will see where this goes. No visits for now, and that is a relief really. I cannot believe this though. Were we meant to adopt again?? This really is not in my plan. I mean 2 more boys?? I am praying hard about this, but I am really confused. I know there are so many parents waiting for adoption, what if they are meant to be with them? Do we just rehab these children and send them on their way to their adoptive home? I just don't know. I am way ahead of myself, this situation could turn around in a split second, that is what happened with Little Guy. I just can't help myself, thinking into the future of 'what if''s.
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We have struggled with that question before too. We have always said that if there are kids placed with us and they go up for adoption, that unless there is another alternative that is better for them, that we will adopt so that the kids don't have to go through another transition.
So far in fostering, there has always been another alternative that is better (relatives, being with siblings, etc.)!
It is such a hard question - praying that God makes it clear to you, and for your strength to trust!
I'm so happy to hear that things are moving along for you! I hope it goes fast and you can celebrate "Adoption Day" soon.
I'm currently dealing with a LOT of guilt right now. We have a 12 year old foster girl that is up for adoption, and we won't be adopting her. We are waiting for her forever family, but because of concern for some of her behaviors, we are planning to move her to another foster home by July. I haven't blogged about it yet...
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