Ok, so baby mama now has home visits. Supervised, but at her home. She hasn't seen her in 4 weeks. Because of the holidays, bad weather, and sickness (the mom), and her job. It has been one excuse after the other. So now Lovebug is a month older, saying words, trying to walk, drinking from a cup. At this age it is not good to lose any time. But whatever, right? Home visits are set. I was really upset at first then I try to think logically. 1. If baby mama doesn't work her plan, it doesn't matter where visits are--she will still have to complete her plan. 2. If Lovebug is going home as planned then she needs to start visiting at her mom's house (that one hurts). 3. I'm once again reminded that I'm not the mom, so what does it matter to me (that is BS). Ok, so visits at mom's house start this week. I'll let you know how it goes.
Thank you everyone for the support on this blog. It is really hard to lose these children.
We still haven't had any calls lately. So strange but I am really enjoying the one on one time with Lovebug. She is an absolute joy. So happy. Everyone comments on how happy she is. Good, then I'm doing my job keeping this baby happy!
We go back to court next month. I'm a wreck. I have been trying not to think about it. But what if they send her home right then. We really need an adjustment time of several months. Like that will happen.
I've been all about quality foster care lately. It's so difficult, but so needed. I want these kids to have the same opportunities as my own children. Clean clothes, food, love, education, positive family interaction, boundries, parents, responsibility. That is what foster homes need to give these kids. If it takes your whole foster care check to buy new clothes for your foster child, then that is what they deserve and need. We make no money by being foster parents. What we have is baby gear, toys, clothes, and food and our baby seriously has a lot of stuff. The foster care money is so little, I don't think people realize that. The ones who complain that foster parents get a lot of money are the people who don't have any money, so they think it's a lot of money. Once you have a child that is old enough for preschool, you are in the hole. Foster homes need to value education, and I mean make it a priority. Just my opinion...
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When I read your updates I have to take a seat as I could have written most of them word for word. We too will be losing our "love bug" in a month and a half and it's heartbreaking. I think of your often, look forward to your post and know exactly what your going through.
Thank you for sharing about your baby. It can be very lonely. I am heartbroken and praying for just a few more months.
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