You have GOT to be Kidding Me!

I knew this road to parenting would be jumping through a lot of 'county' hoops. I was fine with that. We went to our 3 hr long classes 2x a week without complaint. We paid $80 for cpr and first aid certification, without complaint. I answered intrusive questions, subjected my children to questions and judgement by a 'stranger', again without complaint. Now that ALL of our end of the deal is complete, the paperwork is in, and the doctor appointments are all done --the social worker wants to 'claim' her 6 month grace period??? You have GOT to be kidding me!!!! Evidently, the social worker has 6 months from the date of your application (Oct 8, for us) to complete the 'homestudy'. She informed me of this yesterday, why was I not told of this? So I guess it was her way of reminding me that she is in control, not me. She did say that she would anticipate we would be licensed by the first of the year, but isn't promising anything. I really think she will have us licensed as soon as she can, but for her to point out that she has 6 months was putting me in my place (I felt). In my head I'm thinking that it could take several months before we are matched with a child (for foster or adoption). I really want to be licensed ASAP so that we can begin that waiting period. I should've known that I would get really aggravated at the way the system works. We love and take care of our children, and we want more. However, we are independent, and like to do our own thing. We take care of our responsibilities and expect others to do the same. This is where my conflict is going to be. The lack of control. The reminding us that we are not in control here. I must have lots to learn.