The big news!! Yesterday at 3:30 we got a call. Baby boy, 9 months. Born exposed to meth and heroine. Reaching developmental milestones, mom has relapsed. Will we take him?? Yes! At 7pm we had this little guy complete with a diaper bag holding absolutely nothing we needed except 2 diapers. No formula, nothing. So foster daddy ran to the store last night for stuff. He slept like a rock, and has not grieved for his mom. My question is, is that normal? He is very happy, but doesn't even look for his mom. He is trying to crawl, and scoots around in a circle by changing sitting positions. He is on the chunky side!! The other strange thing is that this morning I could hear his belly growling and he wasn't even crying. We have a nurse coming out today or tomorrow to evaluate him. I am going to have a list for her!! His clothes are also too small. He weighs about 28 pounds!! Is this a lot for a 9month old. I know each baby is different, but he isn't a 'tall' baby. He is on the little side. I am in shock, it really happens fast and unexpectedly. One more thing, my kids are in love with him!!
OMG!! HE IS CRAWLING!!! I'm taking pics for his mom.
Update on my nephew, still in hospital!! His fever will not go down. Spiking at 103F. Doctors are saying his sinus infection is very severe.
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YAY YAY YAY! for your new baby boy! Sad for your nephew. Saying a prayer for him right now.
Yay. Is this his first time in foster care or has he been with his mom since birth? If he's been with his mom since birth then I'd say no, it's not typical for him to not care about being separated from her. 9 months of age is normally where the separation anxiety and clinginess has started. If he's been in care before or bounced around from relative to relative, I would understand his behavior. He wouldn't have a strong bond with mom and he'd be more adaptable to new situations.
As far the weight, that a LOT for a 9 month old to weigh. My oldest was a huge chunky baby and only weighed 24 pounds at a year. And THAT was in the 95% for his age. His weight coupled with him not crying when he was obviously hungry seems like a side effect of neglect. A lot of neglected babies will gorge themselves on food when it's offered because they don't know when it will offered again or their parents will stick a bottle in their mouths everytime they cry just to shut them up. Both of these things will cause them to overeat, to not have a true sense of when they are hungry or full because their internal sensor is all messed up. You might want to ask the pediatrician for recommendations on how much he should eat and how often. Poor little guy.
YAY! Congrats!
I would say it's not normal for him to not be missing his mom.
WOW! He is a big boy!
So happy for you!
I agree, that is a lot for a 9 month old. (S) was certainlyy underweight when we got her, but she was only 23 pounds at 2yrs 3mos. She also didn't seem to miss mom when she first came and it was her first time in foster care. I think for the first day or two, she didn't understand that this was a long term thing. Once it dragged on, she started to miss mom and her brothers more.
In any event....YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY
Just because he isn't reacting the way you would expect does not mean he isn't missing his mother.
Just found your blog through Postcards. We've had our foster baby for almost a year now, since she was born. I stay home full-time and she (of course) thinks I am mom. That said, she has an easygoing disposition and does very well in new situations, particularly when visiting w/ birth mom, which we're doing a lot of in the past month, since mom is clean and got housing. All babies are different.
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